So by being friendly, and by “asking good questions” (from “Conducting
Effective Interviews” article), I was able to help this student open up, loosen
his hard stance, and we were able to have a good conversation, which I hope
will help get him closer to graduation.
As an added bonus: He now knows the word “bulletin” which helped him understand how to navigate
his path to graduation. (Just because a word is part of our daily vocabulary doesn't mean that all of our constituents share that vocabulary. Sometimes helping people understand our institutionally specific vocabulary can help them feel more confident navigating a process.)